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Older foster carers make wonderful carers. We need more of them.
Submitted by Lukes Dad on Thu, 25/06/2009 - 21:41
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Send to friendI would just like to mention that with a shortage of foster carers, we are lucky to have so many elderly foster carers. I am sure that it would be a preferable residence to many homes where abuse and neglect occur.
"An active child" is what they called my son in a child safety affidavit from a pediatrician. Why did that put him with a 74 year old, with the three other children. Why didn't they remove him when he was continuously injured.
The last time I saw my son on a visit he had scratches on his face. I insisted it be recorded and I was told he did it himself.
Two days later his mother found scratches on his penis so bad he needed medical attention. They stated he did that himself too.
I had a meeting which I had waited for 4 months to be organised, two days later. I rang and informed them of all my concerns I intended to bring up at the meeting. I did not get a chance.
They threw a list of rules at me stating my childs safety was the main thing. They accused me of abusing my child and I should admit it.
At the top of my list was get him out of that house. I never got a chance to even bring it up.
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Carer Shortage
Is there a carer shortage?
How many foster parents, or foster homes do the different states have? I can't find the information so if anyone else can then please let me know or send me a link.
I have no problem with anyone fostering, old, young, gay, single, partnered, whatever colour creed or combination.
In every single case it is the appropriatness of the placement. I wouldn't demand the ideal matching of children with a carer, this luxuary may be having greater expectations than is practical...
...but at least a sensible decision based on what is obvious should not be too much to expect.
"At the top of my list was get him out of that house. I never got a chance to even bring it up."
And this is part of why people who care about children must support you Michael, the process must change and the significant people in the children's lives must be heard.
Something must be put in place where concerns like you had are acted on as an immediate priority.
I would love to be a foster carer
After Luke died they asked me if there was anything they could do for me. I said I want the job of Pat Anderson, the manager of child safety in Cairns, who I rang a third time in a week since I heard Luke was back in that house. I rang her while my son was lying there with a fractured skull. She could have saved my baby but she never returned any of my calls.
If I became manager down there, you could guaranteed all the bitches that think they are god's gift to children, they know everything and are never wrong and look down on the general public as though they are somehow above us....these sort of people would quit.
That is what this department needs. Get rid of the untouchables that look at you with hatred in their eyes.
The second thing I asked for was that I could have a foster child. No one will ever replace Luke, but I know how well I looked after him and how much I could help some unfortunate child. It would be a way of them saying they were wrong too, I am a good dad.
I was surprised no one even got sacked for the way they handled Luke. Let alone an apology.
I will not rest until justice is served. Someone is responsible, I can name a few but I have to let it all play out in court.
Lifes misfortunes fall disproportionately on the young.
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CARER SHORTAGE
THE REASON THERE IS A CARER SHORTAGE BECAUSE THE DOCS FANATICS ARE TAKING 90 BABIES A WEEK.Melburne take less then half the children n.s.w and queensland do and pour most of teir money into support services for families.The carers are not screened properly and our children are beiing abused by a lot of these carers. read jemma jones articles about how many rapes there are by so called docs foster carers . money is also another reason these carers apply for the job not because they want to help children.stop taking children from good parents.
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carers
I agree lukes dad .There are a lot of carers applying for the job as carer for all the wrong reasons. Not because they want t help children. The Dept of Community Services are allowing a lot of predators in as they are not screening them properly. How many children are being abused by carers? They are being raped and neglected. In our economic climate at the moment there are A LOT OF PREDATORS LOO KING AT CARING FOR CHILDREN AS EASY MONEY.
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Carer Checks
Hi Jane. Yes it's all flawed. But often the checks and assessments reveal nothing.
It's the monitoring that should occur after children are placed that is of real importance.
Nothing can be predicted until the children are in care.
Those bad ones, they'll be safer with the NGO's. They will never look as hard for problems when their own income depends on keeping the children with their own foster parents.
As for reasons of removal, hey we even saw it here recently where a user tried to get children taken from me with a malicious allegation to Queensland Child Saftey.
The person I suspect is a parent who has had her children removed wanting to cause me pain with no thought to the little ones I have in my care who have been here for some time and are happy.
In every walk of life you find people that do not care about children.
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How perfectly true, you as a parent want to help those in need, like a small child who is in need of a placement. What do we, as foster parents say, no to the dept, No, I take in nearly every child that I have requested in my group of childrens age groups and problems, I have only refused a child that is not in that catagory. This is the stratagy I use when taking in a child, ask questions first then accept the child. You know what you are getting, sometimes mybe not, but most time the child is exactly what your requirements are to give a stable home to. And yes, some foster parents go out of their boundries, who knows? why but then they have to deal with what they ask for. I do fight for each and every child I have in my care and when I walk throguh a shopping centre and a child runs towards me yelling aunty aunty and I meet the mom/dad/family member for the first time and they are full of praise as to how settled their child is. I know I did the best I can. I even have those who have screamed at me, abused me in shopping centres, but this is only coming from their situation and their Loss of their child it is not aimed at me as a person. Then when the child is due to go home that same parent is agreeable and they have said their sorries for the abuse. It's only because you had my kid. So I love doing what I am doing when I see all my """children go home"" or in anyother carers home I always take them on for respite, so I can keep track of their progress. It is a hard job, that DOES NOT always pay but I am resorsful and my kids get only new stuff all the time.. LOVE FOSTERING. A Very Unthanked Job by those who actually do care!!!
Jblair09
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Hi Carers,
We know you wonderful carers are out there and i myself know of a wonderful couple now in their early 60's who have fostered over 30 children, long and short term They always give the children going home a wonderful Celebration Party and that is always there aim as foster carers , even though some don't get to go home hence those children are adored and they get to see the people in their maternal families on regular occassions. Hats off to true hearted people.
However the carer who has two of our sibling group is the carer from hell!
When he registered as a carer, said he was a sales rep, let me tell he was not just a sales rep ... and who informed DoCs and CatholicCare of who and what he trully is ? Me............ They had no idea who he was or what he done. 6 months on and DoCs are paying for his coucilling. After he has assaulted and mentally/emotionally abused our children time and time again.
Where are children today ?????? Still with their abusive carer.
Family assessment completed 3months ago = assessment passed with flying colours to care for our own.
DoCs have buried that assessment in the ABYSS.
This carer is busy bragging about his new Iphone etc etc and how his DADDY healed 25 deaf people at his home sermon and the next sermon his DAddy is going to perform more miracle cures. No cultural background rights for our children.
His sermons are a million miles away from this NUTCASE
pj