Falsely accused of child abused, now what?
I have just started a facebook page for people who have been falsely accused of harming their own child. It's inception is to provide a forum of support and advise for parents, like myself, who have been FALSELY ACCUSED. Here is the link, head there and lets start PARENT PROTECTION. I understand that children who are being genuinely abused and victimised but it is also traumatic and abusive to fracture a family based on FALSE allegations.
To whomever is willing to listen,
I am Tracy Nolan and in 1996, when I was 20, I had my first child, Isabella. Her father and I separated when
Isabella was about 2 and a half.
Her father, Anthony Tadros, is of Egyptian heritage and is very involved with not only the Egyptian community
but also the Coptic Orthodox church (Egyptian christian).
Whilst together Anthony and I had planned to be married twice, both times I cancelled, subsequently
humiliating him in front of the Egyptian community.
Shortly after separating from Anthony, I moved into a 3 bedroom house with Isabella, while Anthony continued
to live at home with his mother and siblings.
Approximately 6 months after we separated, Anthony decided to go for custody of Isabella and with his family's
support, obtained custody of Isabella in 1999 due to instability on my part because of the fact I had just moved
into a rental property and they viewed Anthony's parents owned residence as more stable. They also made up
claims that I had a gambling addiction, which was untrue.
When Isabella was almost 9 years old, she started telling me about the trouble she was having with her father's
new wife, Sherien Tadros. She said Sherien was being physically abusive by digging her nails into my daughter
and twisted her ears, when nobody was watching. She also told me that her stepmother had accused Isabella
of molesting her little brother Michael Tadros, after putting powder on him after she changed his nappy.
The night before Isabella returned into my care, she rang me absolutely distraught saying Sherien was trying to
get into her bedroom and is making threats against her life, which I could clearly hear while I was on the phone
The next morning I drove to my daughters school, where I picked her up as her father was dropping her to
school and told him Isabella was coming home with me, to stay. He had no objection.
Isabella was home with me for almost 4 years until late in December 2009, when on one of her sporadic access
visits with her father, he failed to return her. When I rang him to ask when he was going to bring her home, it
was then he informed me that he had no intention of returning Isabella, because she wanted to live with him
and that he would make sure I would never see her again.
I went into total shock, I was 35 weeks pregnant with my 3rd child, Trinity, at the time.
After trying desperately to contact Isabella by email and phone for the next 6 weeks, with no success, in mid
Febuary 2010, just 2 weeks after giving birth, I answered the door to police, informing me Anthony was applying
for an Intervention Order against me on behalf of Isabella.
It went to court at Dandenong Magistrates court on the 22nd of Febuary 2010.
After speaking with the duty solicitor and hearing the allegations that were being made against me in the
application, I broke down in tears, told the duty solicitor I wasn't going to contest it if that's what Isabella really
wanted. And walked out of the court absolutely beside myself, clutching my 3 weeks old baby.
During this time my 2nd eldest daughters father, Kirran Jones, was informed by Anthony of the fabricated
allegations and decided not to return Charlotte after an access visit and hid her from me so I couldn't find
her for 2 weeks.
Little did I know Kirran and Anthony were in on it together.
I thought the matter was over and done with until I was out shopping with my 2 youngest daughters on the
10th of Septemer 2010, when I received a phone call from the Frankston Police. They asked me where I was
and could I come home. I said immediately and went straight home.
When I arrived home I was met by approximately 8 plain clothed detectives in bullet proof vests, I was reeling.
I immediately asked why they were here, towhich I was told that it was regarding Isabella. Tears welled up
in my eyes as I asked if she was ok, by then it had been 7 months since I had even heard her voice. The police
informed she was fine.
I went into my house with the dectectives, it was then they informed me that they had a search warrant for
my house and they proceeded to execute it, all in the presence of my 2 youngest children.
I was then informed that serious allegations of physical abuse had been made against me and that sexual
abuse allegations had been made against my partner, Christopher Lacco.
According to the police, I held a 9 millimetre gun to Isabella's head and that was what they were searching
for. They said claims had been made that I stabbed Isabella in the back with a steak knife while she was doing
the dishes, I broke her nose by punching her in the face, then kicked her in the back. These were the most
serious allegations against me, there were several more but my partner was accused of digitally raping Isabella
and masturbating in front of her.
All VERY serious and disturbing allegations.
As the police were conducting their search a woman from Child Protection introduced herself as Cheryl Cornish
and proceeded then to take my 7 month old baby out of my arms and then took Charlotte, my 5 year old and
put them both in her car, saying she was taking Charlotte to her father, Kirran and Trinity would come with
them to the police station while the police interviewed me.
I was arrested and interviewed by Sen Con Robbie Culcott, all the while I could hear my baby in the room next
to me absolutely inconsolable as she had never spent a minute away from me since she was born.
Cheryl Cornish came in during a break in the interview and promptly told me to breast feed my baby quickly
to settle her down before she then, again, took my baby away from me, where she continued crying.
My mother Jennifer Butera, came up to the police station about 30 minutes later, where she was handed
Trinity until I finished my interview at approximately 9.30pm at night. My baby's eyes were swollen from
crying and it took me a while to get her to calm down.
Then Cheryl Cornish came into the room my mother and I were in and told me that I was not to be unsupervised
with Trinity or Charlotte. So my mother supervised me with Trinity by moving into my house for 4 weeks and
a close friend from church, Mei Hall, was to supervise me during my time with Charlotte.
My partner, Chris, was not allowed anywhere near Charlotte and was not to be unsupervised with his 3
children, Trinty and 2 other children from a previous relationship.
It was during this time that Kirran, Charlotte's was awarded 50% custody of Charlotte, based on the allegations.
FM John O'Sullivan had the matter put over, to be heard at the Magellan Court (A court specifically for parents
being accused of sexual abuse!!!!!), it was thrown out of the Magellan court because I was not the one being
accused of child sexual abuse, my partner was.
So we headed back to the Family court in Dandenong, again in front of FM John O'Sullivan, to say that he was
annoyed that we were back in front of him again would be a huge understatement. And he treated me
Kirran then informed me he will be moving down to Phillip Island and will be taking Charlotte with him and is going
full custody of her.
I tried desperately to stop this from happening but with allegations like this on the table, it made it easy for
him to gain full custody of her.
And in January 2011, final orders were to be made in the family court regarding custody of Charlotte. I was
told by my barrister, Ivan Brewer, that there is absolutely no point in taking it to trial because I will lose solely
based on the allegations made against my partner and I. So I consented to the orders, under much duress.
So Kirran was granted full custody and in the final orders it states that Chris is never to be around Charlotte,
I walk out of court, knowing that now I have lost 2 of my 3 children due to false allegations.
A few weeks later, I received a letter from the Frankston Police informing me they have done a thorough
investigation into the matter and had found absolutely no evidence to support the outrageous accusations
made against me and they were closing the case and were not pursuing it any further.
A little too late for me as the final hearing for Charlotte had already happened.
I decided to contest the application for an extention to the AVO Anthony had taken out against me on
Isabella's behalf. It was heard at Dandenong magistrates court again in the middle of this year. It was
at this time, Isabella, was appointed an Independant Childrens lawyer, as the magistrate remarked, Isabella
should have her own voice and that she didn't know if this was just a father trying to keep a daughter away
from her mother.
Then on approximately the 30th of August 2011, I went to the Childrens Court in the city and found her
father didn't want to pursue the AVO for Isabella anymore but wanted a 5 year AVO for himself against me.
The magistrate asked Isabella what she wanted and my daughter replied ' I want to see my mum'. It was the
first time I had heard her voice in almost 20 months!!
The magistrate said to Isabella that she could see me towhich, Isabella asked the magistrate if she was allowed
to hug me, upon the judge saying yes, Isabella almost crashed tackled me saying she had been wanting to see
me this whole time but her father, Aunty and grandmother wouldn't let her.
Isabella was residing with her paternal grandmother at the time and when she returned back there from
court, her grandmother kicked her out saying if Isabella wanted to have anything to do with me she should
pack her stuff and get out.
Isabella finally came home on the 30th of September 2011.
During this past 20 months Cheryl Cornish from Child Protection supported both Kirran and Anthony at court,
recommending that Isabella not be anywhere near me and that Kirran should get custody of Charlotte due
to my lack of insight into the seriousness of the allegations.
She told my partner, who is aboriginal, that she knows he did this to Isabella as it is 'rampant in his community'
while she was interviewing Chris and I together.
We were also told by Cheryl that child protection doesn't need evidence to take my other 2 children away, she
said if it were just 'likely' that it happened they could take action.
We were treated as though we were guilty and in the process my partner and I have been labelled abusers.
Since Isabella has come home she has told me how her father, Anthony, her Aunty Miriam Ekladious, who
is a school teacher, her grandmother, Leila Tadros and Charlotte's father Kirran all conspired together and made
her make these allegations against my partner and I so Miriam could adopt Isabella and Kirran could get custody
During the 20 months that Isabella was gone she began self harming. She cut her arms and her legs and was
placed into psychiatric care for several weeks at The Stepping Stones Program at Monash Adolescent Psych
She has shown me 'scripts' they made her write out before she spoke to DHS or the police, so she wouldn't stuff
the story up.
She told me that when they were telling her what to say about my partner Chris, she had to ask them to
pull the car over so she could throw up. I ask her why she threw up and she said because of what they were
making her say. I asked her what happened next and she said even though they saw how much it upset
her to do it, they still drove her to the police station to give their scripted statement.
She has many minutes of recorded conversations between her father, herself and her grandmother, passively
aggressively telling her what they want her to do.
She told me that when my conspiritors found out my house had been searched and the 2 youngest girls were
taken off me they went out for celebratory drinks!!
They brainwashed Isabella into thinking I no longer loved her and if she didn't go along with what they wanted
she would be homeless with nowhere to go.
So it seems as though their plan had succeeded, until my daughter found the courage 2 days ago to go the
police and tell them the truth.
Now she has to make a decision as to whether she is going to make a formal statement to police regarding
the conspiracy against me, which may see her father end up in prison. Too much for a 15 year old girl who has
been through so much psychologically, mentally and physically in the past 20 months but now is left with the
guilt of knowing what she was manipulated into saying has effectively meant me losing custody of her 5 year old
sister Charlotte. Who is not being cared for properly by her father. And desperately wants to come home.
She asks me regularly why her other 2 sisters live with me but she doesn't, she wants to know what she did that
was so bad. Can you imagine what that is doing to her psyche?
I believe wholeheartedly that my story needs to be told, so that it can not only highlight the extent a bitter ex
partner will go to hurt you but also because our Child Protective Services are an absolute disgrace.
My whole family has been torn apart because of spite and revenge.
I cant even begin to articulate the heartache I have had to endure in watching my once normal family, be
obliterated in a second.
Or how hard it was to read the paper and learn of another child that DHS had failed to protect. I cant tell you
the number of times I hurt for the children that were really in trouble because of the resources they so
desperately needed, being wasted on me and my partner. We are by no means perfect but are
far from child abusers.
I am absolutely flabbergasted at how someone can deliberately make false allegations against you and have
your whole world turned upside down on absolutely no evidence.
The irony is Anthony Tadros has not paid his taxes in several years to avoid paying child support to me and
has psychologically damaged not only my 15 year old daughter but my innocent 5 year old too and Child
Protection were trying to keep my kids away from me!!!???!!!!
As of today being the 26/07/2012, Kirran has has custody of Charlotte for 18 months and in that time has
moved with Charlotte 5 times. When Kirran first moved to Phillip Island he lived in a 3 bedroom property with
Charlotte but 6 months after renting the property he moved in with his neighbour, Peter, with Charlotte
and sublet his property to a couple that were expecting a baby and had previously been living next door,
Then approximately 5 months later he moved Charlotte back into the original property.
In early March 2012, Kirran was evicted from this property for non payment of rent. My solicitor spoke with
Kirran's property manager who evicted him and she said he would have a lot of problems getting a rental
property in the future and would have to rely on friends for accomodation in the future.
He and Charlotte then moved in with an elderly gentleman and his asian wife. Charlotte and Kirran were only
there for about 3 weeks when I was informed by Kirran he had moved again with Charlotte into a 3 bedroom
place of their own.
The problem with the current house they are in is that it is for sale and now Charlotte's 'home' is in jeopardy
So as her mother, I make an application to the court to have the final orders be changed due to Charlotte's
accomodation being so unstable. Asking that she be returned into my care and reside with me in the property
I have been in for 7 years, a stable home, or so I would have thought.
Again I find myself in front of FM John O'Sullivan
Well the tyrade from FM O'Sullivan would have made milk curdle.
Now this is a man that has NEVER HEARD ONE WORD OUT OF MY MOUTH.
He basically said that Victorian Legal Aid's continued funding of my attempts to regain custody of my 6 year old
daughter, were obscene. That I have destroyed her childhood by continuing to fight to have her back with me and
that he would not use tax payer funded money to pay for another family report.
He said that he was choosing the best of two bad parents when he makes final orders etc etc etc etc.........
I left court feeling like the worst mother in the world and yet if he had have taken the time to actually find out
that the original allegations were not true he may have seen me for the mother that I am, not the one he painted
FM O'Sullivan worked as a junior solicitor at Corrs Chambers Westgarth for three years, between 2000 and 2003.
Between 2003 and his appointment in 2006, he worked as an adviser to workplace relations ministers.
He was previously an adviser to former workplace relations minister Kevin Andrews and has been appointed
by the Government as a federal magistrate, even though he had 80 per cent - or 12 years - less legal experience than
Sixteen federal magistrates were appointed 2006. Excluding Mr O'Sullivan, the appointees had an average of more
than 15 years' experience as barristers, solicitors, court officers or tribunal officers.
Former shadow attorney-general Nicola Roxon "raised serious questions at the time and was right to do so",
Ms Roxon's successor, Kelvin Thomson, said yesterday. Ms Roxon had earlier described Mr O'Sullivan as
"clearly a political appointment".
"He lacks the legal experience to do an effective job as a magistrate," Ms Roxon said. "He will be tainted with
a clear perception of bias on any IR matter that comes before him. There is no evidence he has any experience at
all on any other areas of law federal magistrates can be required to deal with: FAMILY LAW, trade practices, copyright
or native title, for example."
Haven't I been through enough? Haven't my babies been through enough?
When/who will someone care enough to do the right thing??? Who will be courageous enough to at least empathise?
Or at least tell me what to do.
I will do whatever it takes to clear my name and be treated with the respect I deserve. And have my fractured family
put back together.
Now I am faced with having to come before FM O'Sullivan again, I think I know how that is going to turn out.
Please do not hesitate to contact me if you have advice or think that injustices like mine should be told.